dreams / Tracey

Bob, you have been in my dreams for two nights in a row.  I guess I am thinking of you even when I am NOT thinking of you.  We are all staying positive and hanging in there.  We still miss you though.  Sending some love to heaven.

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Baseball surprise!  / Nancy C-McKenna
Bob, I also wanted to tell you that one of your friends,Anna S. came over the other night with her boys and presented Mitch and Alec with a baseball signed by Bernie Williams! Can you believe it! Bernie and his wife had actually heard about you and knew you and the boys were Yankees fans. What smiles it put on their faces and Alec said " Dad would flip if he had this!"....... Please keep our boys safe Bob, and God Bless. Close

Serenity / Nancy Cabral-McKenna
Bob, I just want you to know that the boys are making progress. I see them display such courage every day. They both still drive me crazy,but would expect anything else? Mitchell had a real rough start in basketball. I know it was hard to look into the stands and not see you there. He didn't seem to care much about the teem and even wanted to quit at one point.Part of me wanted to let him give up but then Pat and I realized that it would not solve anything. We talked to him about how you would never have wanted him to quit or give up just because things weren't going his way. When tragedy strikes in our lives, we all have choices. We can be powerful or pittiful, but we can't be both! He chose to call on his power and move foward. As a result,things are looking up.  As for our Alec, he's a character. He keeps us laughing and some days, I would not have made it without him. His uncle Bubba bought him a bow and arrow and he is thrilled! I take him to an indoor range to practice. He is a natural and he knew you once had a bow and said you would be happy about his knew hobbie.Alec just walked in from the P.C. game and wants me to tell you he loves you....... Bye for now.  Close

Thanks Donna  / Laura (Mitch and Alec's Aunt )
Donna, I just wanted to say thank you for creating this for my nephews. This is such an incredible gift for them, this website is full of many good times that they shared with their Dad, and that will always enable them to stay positive and see how much he always has loved them, even at times where they were too small to remember.  They are two amazing young men, with incredible strength, and we know that comes from Bob. He has instilled so many values in them, that his positive energy is showing through them more and more each day. These boys will always be surrounded by positive energy, that is the ultimate goal of every member of our family and all are extended family members too. Life is too short to dwell on negative vibes, it takes less energy to stay positive. You have created this website out of love for Nancy and the boys, and for that I extend my greatest thanks to you, It is beautiful and I'm sure Bob appreciates that you hold his boys so dear to your heart. Thank you Donna!! Close

remembering you officer bob  / Sam Jardin (friend)
I miss you so much officer bob that i can't even put it into words. You were  the best soccer coach when you coached me and taught me alot of things that help me now. I just got into the 6th grade this year and was looking forward to being taught d.a.r.e.  It was a hard loss at my school the case jr. high but so far i think we are doing good. I miss you so much officer bob!!!!! Close

Alec & Mitch  / Brenda Mello-Ricci (A Friend )
Hey guys
I know you don't know me that well but I know both your mom and dad. I just wanted to tell you that there isn't a day that goes by that I don't think of you guys. In my eyes your dad was a man with a very big heart and all he wanted was to make sure everybody was safe and happy. Most of the time he succeed in doing just that. I can continue to tell you how great of a man he was (and still is), but you guys already know that. Even though he may not be with us in body, we will always have him in our hearts. Don't ever be affraid to show your emotions. Let them be a part of your life because some of them are what you have received from your Dad and your Mom and they are never affraid to show thiers. If you need a hand, reach out for one and even if there is no one around to take it physically your dad's hand will always be there in spirit. I wish both the best and if you need anything you mom knows where to find me.
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bob / A. Friend

Donna - I just want to say - "well said".  I thank you for creating this web site for Mitchell and Alec.  My son (and I) visit this site also, and it is very comforting.  I think it makes my son feel close to Bob and his family.  I know that the family is having a hard time,  they are all on my mind constantly. Thank you for creating this site.  POSITIVE THOUGHTS...always

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Tom, why should I remove pictures from this website of your brother?  / Donna Medeiros (site creator )

Hi Tom,  I am posting this after I received your email to remove the pictures of your brother from this website? What would possess a family member to ask of this?  Im more confused than before?  In your last posting you are so proud for doing things for the Town of Swansea, well I think you should take that pride and dignity and turn it towards your nephews and let them grieve properly wihout animosity and such and let Nancy do what she does best, and that is being their for her sons and respect her for that, cmon that is their only surviving parent their Mother? And she is the one that sees and feels their pain. Again, as I stated in my email to you, I'm glad your not my mothers brother!!  You truly do need Gods Blessing!
 

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Tom -Response to your posting!!  / Donna Medeiros (Creator of Site for Mitchell & Alec )

Hi Tom,  If you come back to this site, I am posting this message to you! First and foremost, I am sorry for the loss of your brother, I know the pain of losing a loved one and the emotions it causes. Secondly, I am the creator of this website, (my daughter works with Nancy) I created this website for Mitchell and Alec- you see I lost my mom in August and I know the feeling of losing a parent, its the most devasting feeling one can endure, (as you know yourself). I created this website for the memories of your brother and the boys dad, I created it for them to come on and read the wonderful things that people are saying about their dad, I created it for them to relive memories that people post on here that they had with Bob, the photos of your brother with his family (including his brother and sisters at the request of his exwife). I created it for anyone to come on and post a message to Bob or the boys for that matter - you see when I post to my mom, I know she sees it!! I think its wonderful how the boys can come on and just put the screenshow on and watch the wonderful memories that they had with their dad, you see they are young and they need to have as much rememberence of him as possible.  I never gave it much thought as to why I didnt create this site, however I do have one now, I didnt create a memory site for any person to come on and air out any laundry or any kind of family issues, especially where the boys are still grieving the loss of one of the most important people in their lives?  Unfortunately I didnt get to know Bob, (after his services and reading some of the tributes I do feel like I know him) but I am sure that his number one wish was for his boys to be taken care of, for their health and well being, and no personal items can ever replace that wish.  When I first read your posting, I was a little confused about your situation and to be honest I nor anyone that comes on needs to know any more information especially the boys.  I can read in Nancys posting (the ex wife) that she is missing Bob for her boys, I know those boys are first and foremost and I just wish for their sake everyone else would do the same, they are so young and to have to deal with anything but happiness and peace at the moment is unbearable to me and to others I'm sure.  I couldnt imagine looking into my childrens eyes everyday and seeing the pain that she sees, as a mother we wish we could take it away but we cant we can only promise them to be there for them.  And this I know she is and I dont think anyone should take that away from her?   As far as personal items I could tell you that even  if it was a gum wrapper Im sure those boys would treasure it.  As me and my family do. You said if your brother died of Cancer you wouldnt be writing?  Im confused? Does that make death different? I am sorry Im not trying to judge you and am not trying to stir anything up, I only ask that this website be kept for wonderful memories and stories for the boys sake,  you see when I go on my moms and I read memorable postings it brings smiles to my face.  It brings smiles to my heart but if I was to read something like this it would make me very sad, as the next closest person to their dad is his brother?  In closing I would like to say, I have deleted your posting, as I don't think the boys should be exposed to such nonsense and if there are any family situations then they should be addressed elsewhere and put to rest.  The boys really do need all their family members and try to have their lives somewhat like before (except only the one thing nobody can change is to bring back their dad).   Having said all this Tom, if you or any of your family members would like to come on and share happy memories or would like to foward me more photos of you all please feel free to do so, as Im sure would make the boys very happy and bring them comfort, which is the reason for it.  God Bless!
Donna

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Memories / Nancy C-McKenna
Dear Bob, Alec was telling me about how you made the best hotdogs in the world. How precious is that? He made us get a George Forman grill like you had so we could do it the same way. He was thrilled. It was like he was given a million bucks. All the little things mean so much to your boys. You really live in their hearts and souls. God Bless you Bob for being who you were to them. Close

shayne says you were the best coach (even if he did play for the Yankees!!)  / T.
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Happy New Year Bob  / Heather (Friend of family )
Bob,
  I am sure you won't have to worry tonight because your friends at the police station will be sure to keep the streets safe tonight.  This year was a horrible year thats for sure but I hope that all of us who have lost a loved one can have a better 2006. Bob please just give your boys strength to get on with the new year as it is going to be hard for them.  I am sure you will be watching over them on new years and celebrating with them.  You truly are missed by everyone. Close

Happy New Year  / Laura Read
Hey Bob!

Happy New Year!!! Just like Heather's mother Donna said, I hope many people have learnt from your tragic death, and that people truly think before they get behind the wheel of a car tonight. No good will ever come of anyone that Drinks and drives. It's hard going into a new year knowing that so many people that our family cares about, were taken in 2005. I was always a believer in next year will be better, but after this year, I just want it to be peaceful, especially for our family and friends. You are in very good company up there in heaven and I'm sure by now all of our friends and family have welcomed you with open arms. Although you won't be patroling the streets of Swansea tonight to keep us safe. I know you will be patroling the clouds watching over your loved ones. Please let Mitch and Alec know that you are with them, and don't forget Shayne. That little guys misses you an awful lot. Please stay with him tonight too. Send my New's Years wish to all of our family and extended family. Close

Happy New Year!!!!  / Kimberly Carrelas (Heathers aunt )
Hello Bob
   Just wanted to wish you a happy New Year and to help your boys get through this they truly had an amazing father that everyone admired, my sister donna is right i hope all the party people that are celebrating the new year tonight remember that drinking and driving can not only ruin your life but other innocent people also god bless and ring in the New Year with a BANG!!!!!! Close

Happy New Year Bob!  / Donna Medeiros (Heathers Mom )
Hi Bob,
Although tonight was probably the worse night to be a policeman, we were in good patrol while you were here, and I'm sure we still will be as you are watching over everyone now!  I would hope that anyone that would be drinking tonight would come on this website, and realize the consequences it brings to drink and drive, and if it prevents any accidents or fatalities by  drunk driving then it will be a great new year.  It is very difficult for your family and friends most especially your boys to move forward to the next year without you.  But I know you will be bringing in the New Year with them, whether it be in their hearts or in their dreams, you will be by their side.  I hope you have fun up in Heaven, as I know theres a fun crowd up there, just look for my mom, I told her to look for you, she will be the one with all the noisemakers.  I wish your family a safe and prosperous New Year!!!
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link / T.
just another link to an officer down web page, I visit this one often also.
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Good Friends  / Nancy Cabral-Mckenna
Bob, your death has been such a loss for everyone. I feel like you have sent angels to us to help us cope. You knew we would be receptive to the kindness. I am so thankful to so many people. My family and friends have really stepped up to the plate for us. We are so blessed. You all know who you are , and we can't begin to thank you all enough. I know the bonds that have been built through this tragedy will never be broken. I would especially like to let Tracey,Eric,and Shayne know that you have really helped us. You will all be forever in our hearts. Close

One Day at a Time!  / Donna (family friend )

Mitchell and Alec, nobody can ever take away the love and wonderful memories that your Dad gave you both.  Remember that he is beside you in every step you take guiding you and watching over you.  I know the pain you are going through as I miss my mom a real lot too,  but remember your dad loved you both unconditionally.  Nancy you are a very strong person and wonderful mother, to be there for your boys and dealing what your dealing with as you are grieving the loss of Bob and still the loss of your best friend Anne. I could not even imagine someone causing havoc or being so insensitive in my family in such a tragic time of my life.  To all your family members, one day at a time ok?


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Thinking of u  / Laura Read (sister-in-law)
Hey Bob,

Sorry I haven't taken the time to write to u. Know that there isn't a day that goes by that I don't think of u in some way. I have a special request, some how some way help people see your wishes, because some have lost sight of what is and was most precious to you, the well being of your pride and joys Alec and Mitch. Please guide them to the light and help them realize that they are just making a very hard situation even harder. You have left your sons in good hands, Nancy will always keep Mitch and Alec's best interest at heart, and you always knew that, that is why you chose her to be the mother of your sons. Nancy is overwhelmed with love for those two boys and would never do anything that wasn't in there best interest. She always will keep your wishes for them in her heart and do everything in her power to make them come true.  Please keep her under your wing and guide her through anything that she has to face. Show her your strength and help her find that strength through you. The holidays are almost over and your lose is only going to get greater, healing is going to take a long time, but please stay by her, Pat and the boys because the road ahead might not be easy, but show them the light to find peace.
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